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Originally Posted by marciayudkin I may be out of touch because I have been self-employed for 25 years (no boss) and do not ever invite strangers or acquaintances to my home. Also, I live in New England, where even long-time neighbors who are not reclusive by personality do not often invite one another in.
But is it realistic that an employee would invite their boss over to dinner at their house? I have never heard of this.
And why on earth would you invite someone into your home who is going to judge you? (Other than, let's say a relative whom you have to entertain to keep the family peace.)
I don't understand some of the basic assumptions in this ad. Please enlighten me.
Marcia Yudkin |
I may have some insight into your question, Marcia. My dad was an electrical engineer for a large firm. As a kid I remember the tension in our house before certain parties my parents would host. Looking back, I realize he was "having the boss over." I'm sure this was part of some elaborate corporate ritual.
I have a sister who lives in Scottsdale. In the late 80's, her husband went to work in merger's and acquisitions for an exclusive hotel group. I was always a bit envious of him. The guy was pulling down 250k/year plus options, and bonuses.
This was at a time when I was making about one-fifth that. Which, when I didn't compare myself to him, wasn't so bad. Fortunately for my fragile ego, I didn't vist them that often.
Their house was beautiful; their cars, beautiful. For all I know, they bought their furniture from Kacey Fine Furniture.
Funny thing is they were always worried about money. I had to help pay for my sister to bring her kids to visit one year.
This guy was a finance major, so you'd have thought he would have known about the dangers of negative compound interest, but he was playing the corporate game, so going into "lifestyle-maintenance" debt was looked at as an "investment."
They had, in his words, "to
look successful, to
be successful."
A big part of playing that game was having clients, and bosses over to schmooze.
Think Darren Stevens inviting Larry Tate to his place.
I think this ad would've got right inside my ex brother-in-law's head. He always felt that five years down the road, he'd make enough to easily knock down his debt, and start saving for retirement.
He did keep getting those promotions, but they never caught up to their lifestyle. They divorced and filed for bankruptcy.
(And I've experienced that New England reserve, too. I grew up in Florida. My senior year of high school we moved to a small town in the Adirondacks. The people were friendly, but
very reserved, almost clannish. They were that way in east Tennessee, also. I always thought geography played a part in that. My thought was if you live in flat, open spaces, like the midwest, you tend to be more neighborly; but if you live in areas where you can't see over into the next holler, you're going to be a bit more withdrawn. Especially if your kinfolk have lived there since before the Civil War.)